Here are some ideas for interviewing family members or
answering yourself. The answers might make interesting stories to
LIL'S BOOK OF QUESTIONS
you think of an event in your life that changed the way you see the
world or that changed you in some way? What was the event? How did you
TRUTH: What's the biggest
lie someone told you that you later discovered was false? What's the
biggest lie you ever told? How do you feel about it now?
LETTING GO: What's the
hardest thing you ever had to let go of? Why did you have to let go of
it? What did you replace it with? Would you want it back?
MOMMY/DADDY: How are you
like your parents? How have you tried not to be like them?
RELATING: What's the most
important relationship in your life? What could you do to make it
better? Will you do it?
OOPS!: What was your most
embarrassing moment? How did you react?
HELP: Who has helped you
most in your life? What did you learn from this person that still
helps you today?
are you least proud of in your past behaviour? Most proud of?
STILL MAD?: Whom do you
resent most from your past? What fear underlies these resentments?
PAST/PRESENT: How does
your past affect your present? Do you feel held back or disadvantaged
by something in your past?
CHANGE: What do you most
want to change in your life today? Do you believe you have the power
to make the changes?
MEASURING CHANGE: How do
you know when/if things are getting better? Worse?
QUALITY: What qualities
in another are most important to you in a relationship? What qualities
offer a relationship?
BODY LANGUAGE: If your
body could speak to you, what would it tell you about how it's
FREEDOM: What kind of
work would you do if you did not have to work for money?
FEELINGS: What emotion do
you find easiest to express? Why? Most difficult?
POWER: What allows you to
feel powerful in your life? In what ways and situations do you not
CLIQUES: Into what groups
would you divide the people in your high school?
SPIRITUAL: When do you
feel most spiritual? Where?
ENCOUNTERS: What is the
most unusual way you've ever met someone? Have you ever met someone on
the street, in a bus, train, plane, subway, or store who is still a
CLOSE ENCOUNTERS: How did
you meet your current best friend or partner? How did you find out
that you had common interests?
RECESS: What did you do
during recess in grade school? What was recess like for you?
HISTORY: Which era in
history fascinates you most? Why?
FAIRY TALE: What was your
favourite childhood fairy tale? What did you like about it?
REBELLION: Have you ever
had or currently have an urge to rebel? What would you like to rebel
GOALS: What is the most
important of your goals you've achieved so far?
JUST FRIENDS: Do you have
a best (but non-romantic) friend who is a member of the opposite sex?
What's it like?
TELL ME A STORY: Can you
remember being read to as a child? What were you read?
COSMIC INTERVENTIONS: Do
you feel the universe is indifferent or does it participate
benevolently or malevolently in your affairs?
BEING YOURSELF: When do
you feel most authentically yourself?
MEMORY: What is your
earliest childhood memory of a self-willed act? What is your very
earliest recollection: sights, sounds, smells? Do you think it is
memory, or a memory you were told?
IMPORTANT: What is most
important in your life?
NECESSARY: What is most
necessary in your life?
BUT WHAT WILL THE NEIGHBOURS SAY?:
Do you care what other people think?
Who? How much? Do you care what strangers might think about whether
you're dressed appropriately? Do you care what your neighbours whom
you've never met might think?
SOLITUDE: Do you ever
spend time in forests or other non-human dominated environments?
What's it like?
DREAMS: Do you remember,
think about, or write down your dreams? What do you dream about? Have
you ever had a recurring dream?
AMAZEMENT: What amazes
DOUBLE LIFE: Do you have
inner life that is substantially
different from your outer life? Why?
LOVE: Do you ever think
about love, what it is, why it persists or fades away? What do you
PURPOSE: Do you ever
think about why we are here (that is, in this galaxy)? What do you
CROWDED COMPASSION: Have
you ever felt the weight and presence of all the other people on this
planet, each with a network of family and friends, each one with hopes
and fears, joys and tragedies? What thoughts, experiences, or events
gave you that feeling?
HISTORY: Do you ever
wonder about people in other times, whether they were like us or had
different thoughts, needs, interests, feelings? What do you think?
DATING: What was your
worst date like?
BEAM ME UP: Aside from
gravity, what invisible forces do you think affect your life?
CONNECTED: Do you ever
have a feeling of complete unity with any other being: living or
non-living? What's it like?
DISCONNECTED: Do you ever
feel completely isolated and separate from every other being? What's
CHOICES: Do you think you
have any real choices (aside from the one between Coke and Pepsi)?
CONSPIRACY?: Do you ever
feel there's something big and important going on that we know nothing
ROLE MODELS: Who were
your role models when you were growing up? Did these role models help
you to become who you are or hinder you in some way from finding out
who you are? Who are your role models now?
KINDNESS: Do you
experience as much kindness in the universe as you would like?
LIFE LESSONS: If you can
teach your child one lesson, what would it be?
THE BIG ANSWERER: If you
could ask G-d one question, what would it be?
CATALYST FOR CHANGE: What
person has been a catalyst for change in your life? How did the person
influence you to change? How did you change?
WHITE RABBIT: Visualize
some (neglected?) aspect of your life as a white rabbit (running away
from you, muttering "I'm late, I'm late"). Where would it take you if
you followed it down a rabbit hole? Neglected aspects of your life
could include your passion, your courage, your creativity, your
spirituality, your need for style or fashion, your need for romance or
ISSUES: What are you
currently thinking or obsessing about?
IMPACT?: Do you think you
can make a difference?
STUFF: Do you think you
really need all your stuff?
VALUES: Does your
behaviour towards others and to your community and environment show
that you are living according to your values?
WATCH OUT: Do you feel
you risk enough in your life?
CYBER-SENSE: Is email and
the Internet eroding your sense of reality and human contact?
DESTINY: Do you think
where you are in your career or education is primarily a result of
accident and fortuneís mischief or design and conscious effort?
62. +*+: Did you sing songs as a family? What
songs did you sing?
STILL GROWING: Are you
changing your life now? How?
SOME ENCHANTED EVENING:
Have you met the love of your life? Do you think you ever will?
HUMAN BEAN: What does it
mean to be a human being?
FREEDOM? What intangible
things do you fear? These might include solitude, poverty, success,
responsibility, commitment, intimacy, trust, or others. How would your
life be different if you feared nothing?
MILEAGE: Do you have a
car? If yes, does your car owe you anything? When will you feel your
car is debt-free?
LETíS DISH: Do you have
more to say to some people than to others? What factors in the other
person or operating betw een you seem to make it possible to have so
much to say to some people and so little to others?
VOICES?: Who from history
are you channelling?
GROW UP ALREADY!! When
did you first feel like an adult?
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